This particular group, I had known most of them for over a year.
We had seen babies born.
Family members pass away, relationships start and relationships finish.
I genuinely cared about the girls in there.
I worried about them in my day to day life, how they were doing, how their kids were doing, seeing things at the shops that I knew they would like despite us being all over the country.
I don’t know at what point it changed.
But it seems to always, change.
One of the things I noticed was a girl who I would have considered a great friend, stopped chatting to me. Just stopped.
She was hanging out with some of the other girls in the group – in real life – which didn’t bother me at all because friends in real life is absolutely awesome and who doesn’t want that.I was bothered by being snubbed. But she was going through stuff so I didn’t bring it up.
A group of people who were extremely vocal about being judgement free zones and anything was welcome, slowly turned into a place where I felt that my parenting methods were not as acceptable, not as good.
Because I swear in front of my kids. Because my kids have been in detention.
Because my child has Sensory Processing Disorder and no one bothered to even ask what that was when I spoke about it.
I’m sad about it all, to be honest.
I’m not sure at what point a great group of girls started competing with each other, a little popularity contest when all of them are awesome in their own ways.
It’s been about a month now and no one has even messaged me to see how I’m going.
That’s the bit that hurts the most.
That’s the bit that shows me that this great group of girls has changed.
I don’t want a pity party.
I don’t want to be begged to come back.
But it would be nice to know that these girls who I’ve genuinely cared about for this long, cared a little bit too.
- I should highlight that I have made some pretty good friends from online mother’s groups and not all experiences are like this. I think that’s why it saddens me so much because I know how great of an asset they can be.