Firstly, I *should* count myself fairly lucky in that I didn’t have to register Morrigan prior to her birth to get into a daycare.
Or you know, within weeks of her gracing us with her presence.
Although I love love love my current company, I’m looking for something a little more consistent – they know this, they’re pretty great – and so being consistent, in searching for childcare.
Why is it so fucking hard?
So firstly, I went and inspected a place across the road from a potential workplace, which sounds perfect, right? Except when the director asked me if I’d ever left Morri and how she went and I said “I’ve left her for short times, although she’s still breastfed and she’s fairly attached to that” she says “have you tried formula?”
Ummmmm excuse me? Pardon? I’ve just told you my child is very attached to boobin and you’re asking about formula?
I have no bones, your child, your choice, but breastfeeding is my choice and I’ve worked fucking hard at it and this person who’s met me 2 minutes ago is suggesting I try something else? Where’s the support?!
So then I said “no, but I’ve expressed and she’s been okay with it” and I got “oh okay”.
No details on their storage guidelines or pumping/feeding facilities like they’re required to have. No anecdotes about other mothers settling their bubs in and working around feeding so it is best for everyone. Just oh okay.
It really didn’t make me feel confident in their support and it is really important to me to continue, especially since Morri has some dairy (not lactose, dairy) issues happening so she can’t have it.
So I did what all parents do nowadays, I went to Facebook.
I got accused of ruining the English language because I used acronyms that people within the industry would know and that’s who my post was aimed at.
I got told I was asking too much and why bother.
It was suggested that I’m making parenting difficult for myself.
Because I want a fucking daycare that has a similar philosophy to ours?!
At this point, we’ve sort of given up. I’ve had a couple of lovely family daycare suggestions which I’ll be looking at over the next week or so to maybe put her in a day a week but for now, Pat will stay home with her and do his work around my hours, whatever they be.