So, most mornings I listen to my local radio station because they give out free milk and bread and I enjoy the banter.
I remember when Blurred Lines was released.
It kinda gets stuck in your head with it’s catchy tune and it’s rapey, victim-blamey lyrics.
There was a bit of an uproar.
People were pissed.
And as someone who’s been told more than once “you know you want it” it was more than fair to be pissed.
Imagine my surprise when on the radio yesterday morning, comes a song
“It ain’t my fault you keep turning me on
It ain’t my fault you got, got me so gone
It ain’t my fault I’m not leaving alone
It ain’t my fault you keep turning me on”
Ummm Excusssseeeee me?
It is your fault you’re not leaving someone the fuck alone.
Them just being them isn’t trying to turn you on it’s them being a person.
Like everyone else out there.
“It ain’t my fault you came here looking like that
You just made me trip, fall, and land on your lap”
That’s sexual assault – well done for glorifying it in your song to millions of people!
“No I, can’t be responsible
If I, get you in trouble now
See you’re, too irresistible
Yeah that’s for sure”
Yes, you can be responsible.
If you force yourself onto another person, it is sexual assault.
It isn’t okay.
It certainly isn’t something to write a fucking catchy song about.
It was sung by a woman.
I don’t mean that to sound sexist – I am highlighting the fact that women are constantly fighting to bring shit like this to light.
To highlight the fact it isn’t okay. It IS that person’s fault. And then this one just sings a song and undoes all that work.
If you’re going to argue “well men sing songs like that so why shouldn’t women”
Because men shouldn’t sing songs about sexual assault and rape either.
It’s not okay and it certainly isn’t fucking top 40 material.
You can’t justify it by saying someone else is doing it, why can’t I?
And eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.
Making light of situations like this is how we get Brock Turners.
It’s how we get judges who give Brock Turner 3 months.
It’s how we get teachers seducing (grooming & raping) students.
It’s how we get people telling these 12 year old boys who fall victim that they should be glad. Or proud.
It has got to stop.