We all have different levels of pain tolerance. Mum’s are known to have a pretty high pain threshold, cos let’s face it, whether it’s vaginal or c section, birthing hurts.
I have a toddler daughter. I also have endometriosis. A chronic disease with no known cause or cure and to put it politely it hurts like fuck, in fact, I’d rather heal from a c section again than ovulate.
This week I ovulated. This week I took some serious painkillers to get through and as a result, my kid’s behaviour is imitating Denis the Menace and now I’m up to the eyeballs in spilt food, trashed toys, and washing – all the while feeling like my insides are being ripped apart with smashed glass being rubbed in for good measure.
March is endo awareness month, did you know? Did you know that one in 10 women have endo, with most being told the debilitating pain they experience during ovulation or menstruation isn’t normal. It’s far from normal.
The short version of what endo is the lining of you uterus grows on the outside of it and tries to bleed every month just like on the inside of your uterus. If you want something more technical, I suggest visiting here: www.endometriosisaustralia.org/about-endometriosis
Apart from the pain, the most fun (don’t drown in my sarcasm there) thing about endo is people telling me it’s all in my head – it’s not in my head, mate; it’s my lower abdomen – or that they have some magical cure that my doctors don’t know about or won’t suggest cos it doesn’t benefit big pharma. You know what’s really hard, not telling those people to fuck off while I’m high on endone and still in freaking pain.
In my case, if I admit to you that I’m in pain or that I’m struggling (cos yes, physical pain does start to take a mental toll), don’t try and sell me something or tell me that it’ll be ok. Offer a heat pack, cup of tea or simply say “I don’t know what to say” or even a “that’s fucking shit mate”. Just don’t make a woman feel crazy because she’s in pain.
If your daughter, sister, wife, mother, aunt, friend or any other friend tells you she is in extreme pain at that time of the month – help her. Get her to the doctor and request a referral to a gynaecologist to investigate. Don’t forget that pain during ovulation or period may be common while common is not normal. The more we talk about it, the less other women will be stuck on the long path to diagnosis (it was six years for me and even then I wasn’t closely monitored for another seven years).